At this point, I'm not sure what is more surprising — the fact that so many men in power have used that power to harass and abuse women or the fact that there are so many of the kind of men who'd want to.
Are there really that many creepy men in the world? Or is it just that a certain kind of man who achieves power behaves that way? Or do the powerful just think they can get away with it?
I'm not so sure anymore.
Surely the revelations of so many men in power who have been accused of groping, harassing and abusing women is shocking. It is disturbing to the rest of us who don't live like that. It is mind-blowing to those of us who have lived a life long considered to be old-fashioned, sedate and boring — we've been married for decades, we're involved in the community, whether it is church, or the chamber of commerce or Scouting with our kids, and we've raised our families the best we can.
We hear about Weinstein, the Hollywood guru, and figure that one isn't so surprising. It's Hollywood. But then the dominoes fall, and among the dominoes are Sen. Al Franken, Garrison Keillor and Matt Lauer.
People actually behave this way? I don't know anyone who does. Do you?
In some ways, I think it all goes back to Bill Clinton. Yes, we let Clinton get away with the worst behavior, explaining it away as just sex and calling it the Lewinsky scandal. Her life is ruined but Bill makes hundreds of thousands of dollars giving speeches.
And perhaps it all has something to do with our media.
I'm one of those guys who grew up on media, the first generation raised in front of a TV set. I think it was sometime in the 1980s when everything changed on television, when we realized that every show on TV was about sex. No matter what the situation, no matter the characters, everyone's objective was sex.
When I learned that only young people were getting jobs as writers in Hollywood, I began describing everything on television with a simple phrase — juvenile male fantasy.
The trend culminated in the show that I believe was the worst of its kind, the one that featured the greatest juvenile male fantasy going, "Two and a Half Men."
There was nothing real about it. It was sophomoric, juvenile and a fantasy of the teenage male mind.
During the last presidential campaign, Vice President Michael Pence was ridiculed when he said he would never allow himself to be alone with a woman who wasn't his wife. He was mocked as someone who couldn't trust himself or control him his own tendencies or someone who would easily give in to juvenile urges, by the usual suspects who turn out to actually be suspects.
Truth be told, he was staying away from temptation. He was practicing what he believes as a Christian, for the Bible teaches that men should avoid such situations.
Childish, the critics say.
But, oh, if only the likes of Conyers and Lauer and Franken and the others understood themselves as much as Pence understands himself, or as much as the Bible understands human nature, and if they followed such advice.
We wouldn't be having the conversations we're having now.
Better yet, who knows how many lives wouldn't have been ruined.
Randy Blaser is a freelance columnist.